Why is My Son so Mean???

Yesterday Alex had a routine checkup at the Pediatrican office and boy did he act a fool!!! Omg not even two mintues after walking into the office he was screaming at someone's kid. I immediately took Alex out of the situation and he had a full blown tantrum. I looked up from off the ground and politely gave the child's parent "The Nod and Embarassed Smile". She nodded back I think she knew exactly what I was going through, I think she felt my pain. Every parent of Toddlers know the struggle.... They call it the "Terrible Twos" but I swear I have been dealing with this behavior from Alex for a long time now, and my husband and I do all the things we feel necessary to improve his behavior but I just have come to the realization that my son is mean...

These are some of the behaviors I'm talking about:

1. He constantly yells "NO" to random strangers and family members (even great grandmas)  Really Alex Great Grandmas smh!!! I feel so bad they try to hug and kiss him and it pisses him off. I understand that he is a shy child around people he doesn't see everyday but why can't he just hide behind mama or not speak at all like normal children do.

2. He hates when people smile at him or look at him too long... And don't even speak to him unless you want to see him have a tantrum... Smh one day a old man with a cane stood behind us in line at Target. He smiled at Alex and of course he used his favorite word "NO" I knew deep down inside Alex was giving this man a warning, I tried my hardest to hurry up and grab my bank card out of my wallet and pay before things got ugly, but I was too late! The old man started talking to him and before I knew it Alex let out a ear piercing scream "Nooooooo" he screamed pointing directly at the man barely staying inside the shopping cart... The man was so shocked he switched lines.. Alex screamed until we left the store.

3. He ever shares. This is typical for his age, but Alex will walk into a room were other kids are playing and act like everything belongs to him. I have been seeing improvement with his sharing though, but it takes a while before he will cooroperate.

4.  He hates talking on the phone.  I really can't explain this one he just does not like talking on the phone.

5. He bullies the Dog. Thank God we have a big dog who is unbothered by Alex shenanigans, but boy do I feel sorry for her... He punches, pushes, throws his toys at her, continuously follows her around getting on her nerves whenever he is frustrated ... We've definitely enforced the rule "No hitting the dog or anyone" but he does still try to sneak hits when we're not paying attention.... But he also just loves that dog to death... They are besties despite his bullying.  

6. How he treats me in public. Embarrassed is not a big enough word to explain how he treats me in public. Whenever we go into Target, TJ Maxx,  The Mall he feels the need to pull his " Act a damn fool card" and does whatever he needs to do to show his ass!! Usually I bribe him with a snack, book, or toy to keep him quiet so I can shop in peace, but now I just don't take him anymore when im shopping. That is now my official ME time.

7. His first instinct is to throw/hit things when he is pissed off. This habit really pisses me off. Imagine telling your toddler "No you can't have that snack" and instead of just putting it back they throw it or something else because they are pissed.. Usually when he does this I immediately send him to timeout and explain that the behavior is unacceptable... He now barely throws things.

Sometimes I'm completely clueless to why he acts the way he does, because at home he is the sweetest little angel. Full with love, kisses, and cuddles. I'm not sure if other parents have a toddler like mine even though most toddlers I see are sweet... I'm hoping he will outgrow this and I'm constantly working with him to let him know what behaviors won't be tolerated... I still have a long way to go but I'm seeing improvement, I know he is a good kid he is just very stubborn... Or Spoiled lol. Any mamas out there dealing with a stubborn toddler???